Cheating and Dating

[GeniusShikamaru]

Okay now this is a real situation me and my friend were talking about the other day:

There was girl that both me and my friend kinda fancied. And now he is the one dating her. Not that I care much. And sadly he doesnt care much either. We started talking that if the girls we both truly Love were around and this particular girl was around we would cheat on her in front of her face if it meant being with the ones we truly love.

Basically what i'm saying is like. You have a crush for a LONG time on a particular person. But they have never been available for you to date and actually be with. So you settle for another thats also pretty cool. But If you got the chance to go out with the ONE you always wanted. The ONE you always loved. Would you cheat on your current gf and go with the one you've longed for?

* this crush can also be an EX you really loved and still do.


Me and my friend would both cheat on other girls if it meant we could be with the ones we really like. We each have one that we believe is our soul mate, but cant have. I dont konw if others are in such situations or have felt that way.

[Scorpio3.14]

Why not do the manly thing and just respectfully break up with the girl you are currently seeing and then go with the girl you love? It may also hurt the girl but its hell of a lot better then getting cheated on. Atleast have the balls to break up with her before you go out with another girl.

[TsunadeChic]

A situation like that sure is troublesome, isn't it Shika-san?

From a girl's point of view, I can say this:

First off, if you're truly in love with the person, then you wouldn't cheat on them. Period. Sometimes what you wanted in the beginning isn't always what you want in the end, and that's OK. It's just a sad part of life that oftentimes, we're at the mercy of someone else's feelings.

If you're looking to have companionship until you can get "the one", then by all means... just be honest with yourself and the one you're dating. She might believe that she can win your heart. And, given a chance, you might be surprised how your feelings for someone can evolve. I speak from experience on that point.

Good luck with the situation. I wish you nothing but the best.

[rimpelcut]

I would make the girl I love fall in love with me, if she doesn't then it's obvious she won't like me when she has dumped that other guy, unless she has some kind of change in herself. By then I probable will have another girl that I really like. If I don't and she hasn't become unatractive to me then we can start over.