Deciphering the Code: Signs of Attraction V.1

[Kitsune101]

Just a thread that both women and men (boys and girls) can share some clues to 'tell whetger he/she like you.' I have been wondering this for queit some time and it would be helpful if you ladies (in my case) would give some hints or clues on how to desipher the code of attraction. For example, in the event that a girl does [a motion that the girl does], did that action personify her liking or just something else; basically this is about what (little or big) things do girls do (physically) that show her interest. I personally am not mindful of telling, so....yea know, this will be helpful for both women and men on the forums; not just me.

[The 21st Hokage]

Girl likes guy

On the internet.

She IM's you first
She PM's you first
She IM's you everytime you sign on
She PM's you everytime you sign on
She Puts her away message up just so she can talk to you in a PR

Off the internet:

She calls you first
She smiles at you blatently
She talks to you every night
She gives you nicknames
She wants your number
She's into the same stuff your into
She's digging your personality

[Kitsune101]

^wow (This post was too short)

[Chamcham Trigger]

Guy likes a girl if they look at her for more than 5 seconds.

[Sho]

Well from what I've experienced, if a girl likes you then:

-She acts completely different around you than when she's with others
-Extra eye contact than usual, extra smiles as well
-She keeps playing around with her hair and adjusting it when around you
-She touches you whenever possible (like a mock push if you make a joke or whatever)
-Laughs at whatever you say even when it's unfunny
-Crosses and uncrosses her legs constantly when she has her lap facing you
-You keep on catching her staring at you
-She leaves clues that she wants you to talk to her, like playing around with a bracelet, making herself seem available, etc.

If a guy likes you (and this is what my friends do or what I do if I like a girl) then:

-He acts different around the girl than around others
-He teases the girl
-He talks to everyone but the girl
-Tries to touch girl whenever he can (like if he made a joke about her and gives her a mock hug, etc.)
-Keeps on staring at the girl
-Tries to act uninterested
-Tries to act macho/jackass around the girl

I think it's easier to tell if a guy likes a girl than if a girl likes a guy IMO. Anyways those are my thoughts on that.

[Kitsune101]

-Tries to act macho/jackass around the girl.

Gee, thanxs >.<

[XrangerX]

LOL i just realized if thats true i know 2 chicks that totally like me.. They have all the symptoms like sure i have suspected it for a while now but if u bringers of the true really do speak the truth im in.. ARRGHH now i gotta choose between them awww this is where the problems start

[Sho]

^lol, alot of guys would love to have your problem. But good luck on that! :thumbs

And yeah, if she exhibits most of those signs, then she most probably likes you. Just one or two signs is not direct proof but if it's 3+ then you gotta go for it.

Gee, thanxs >.<

lol it's true though. That's what some(or most) of us guys do, just so we don't come off as "needy" which is a big turn-off.

[Rocklee88]

well.. if i like a guy i pretend to ignore him :P
im not the type that exhibits emotions or any sign. Maybe its the stuck-up factor lol XD

[Eden Prime]

LOL i just realized if thats true i know 2 chicks that totally like me.. They have all the symptoms like sure i have suspected it for a while now but if u bringers of the true really do speak the truth im in.. ARRGHH now i gotta choose between them awww this is where the problems start

Get both of the girls around you at one time, and flirt with one of them and see what the other one does. Or just hang around both of them at once and see if they think each other is impeding their progress on getting with you. It would be a nice test, see how they act around each other when they see how flirty each one is to you. :amuse

Also, i always see guys making complete fools of themselves around the girl they like, and if the girl likes him back, she doesn't think he's an idiot. That's how you know if a relationship is sparking.:tem

[Kitsune101]

Get both of the girls around you at one time, and flirt with one of them and see what the other one does. Or just hang around both of them at once and see if they think each other is impeding their progress on getting with you. It would be a nice test, see how they act around each other when they see how flirty each one is to you. :amuse

Wel, you see, the thing is, that (^) *jabs finger at above paragraph*is a way to get killed. Don't get me wrong, you may be a chick, thus having a crap load more experience, but please explain to me (dont have to) how that not a..um, erm...damn can't think of the word....but you know what i mean.

[Eden Prime]

No, no, it'll work, you should try it sometime. There will be minimal or no death/blood. It works a lot of the time. If you're not with either one of them (by technicalities) than everything should go smoothly, and by smoothly, i mean some competition, dirty looks, ect. Minimal bitch-slapping and hair tugging.

[Kitsune101]

No, no, it'll work, you should try it sometime. There will be minimal or no death/blood. It works a lot of the time. If you're not with either one of them (by technicalities) than everything should go smoothly, and by smoothly, i mean some competition, dirty looks, ect. Minimal bitch-slapping and hair tugging.

^nice!
A beautiful site, indeed T.T *tears of happiness*

[vitruvianwoman]

i think a good way to see if a guy likes you (maybe this works with girls too) is when you're at group events, to quietly wander off and sit by yourself... then if some guy breaks away from what he's doing to come talk to you, then it would indicate he's interested... the guys that have liked me before have tended to do this

[Sir Whirly]

.... I think girls like my looks but when they start talking to me, my oddness and wierd sense of humor kind of turns them off.... oh how I wish I could find a girl who I am attracted to would actually like my personality.

[Kitsune101]

^same. My sense of humor is twisted, hence I watch anime. DUH! I talk to women like I talk to 'ma boys' (lol) and I understand that is inapropriate.

[Sorano]

When I like a guy, I tend to be really mean to them.

[Kitsune101]

^haha, I get pummled often, but I don't think its because they like me >.<

[OtacontheOtaku]

Well, there's no clear-cut sign to a chick liking you, more or less, if she keeps talking to you she probobly likes you. If she makes it a point to continue on conversations and such, chances are she's into you. Bottom line... I wish there were more obvious signs, but guys just aren't good at picking up on ultra subtle body language like women are. Kinda unfair if you ask me.

[mary no jutsu]

well whenever one of my friends like a guy they act mean to that guy and mess around with them alot. or jsut go straightup to their face and say i'm starting to like you. or they try sitting next to the guy they like.

but then theres people like me that can't handle being touched by the guy they like cause then i start blushing like crazy. and i don't really can't talk to the guy i like. or jsut have a hard time starting a conversation....

i'm hopeless.

[Kitsune101]

^Im the same way, except...um...its not a 'guy' i like....>_>...<_<

[Eden Prime]

Well, i tend to be mean to girls that i like or attractive girls, because i know they have control over me and can get me to do a lot of things, so it's my way of saying, "You will not control me."

[3-D]

look its like this if you drive a nice car youll get the girls.... like this one for instance

anyone agree?

[Rocklee88]

.... I think girls like my looks but when they start talking to me, my oddness and wierd sense of humor kind of turns them off.... oh how I wish I could find a girl who I am attracted to would actually like my personality.

i think we will be very compatible :glomp

[batz]

When I like a guy,
I stare at him when he's not looking.
Talk a bit louder in front of him
Totally ignore him when he joins our group
Laugh when he's around and casually look a him so that he does'nt know Im smiling at HIM
And when we've become friends, tease him
oh, and that sitting alone thing also works..I was stupid enough to let a guy do it to me once.


If a guy likes you (and this is what my friends do or what I do if I like a girl) then:
-He teases the girl
-He talks to everyone but the girl
-Keeps on staring at the girl
-Tries to act uninterested
-Tries to act macho/jackass around the girl


*hugs sho*
I hope your right about those!

[XrangerX]

Woah i just got updated on this post and yeah if i got those 2 chicks together they would prob kill me first for doin it plus i have respect for woman so i wouldnt be as cold as to do that 2 them. Plus it would end up me being dateless and dead in the middle of the schoolyard....

[Eden Prime]

Woah i just got updated on this post and yeah if i got those 2 chicks together they would prob kill me first for doin it plus i have respect for woman so i wouldnt be as cold as to do that 2 them. Plus it would end up me being dateless and dead in the middle of the schoolyard....

Geez, it wouldn't be that bad, it's worked in my experience. Noone died, no one got shot, scratched, cut, thrown, tossed, kicked, hit, punched, ran over, or yelled at. They don't want to admit that they like you, so they don't come right out and say, "Get away from mah man, bitch!" they just kinda compete with each other to get your attention.

[Tenten's missing lastname]

lemme think....

+Girls will prolly laugh or giggle more stupidly than normal (if they're the girly type)
+If they're the more tomboy kind, they'll kick you and grin or say "Dork" or "Loser! haha.."

+They'll ask you about what you're wearing "Does this shirt go with these pants? Come shopping with me. Does my hair look messed up?"
+They'll show off. Show you things that arent useful at all.
+Touching, like playing with your hair, on your arm, or extra hugs, maybe poking.

Yeah. I'm a chick. o_o; Im pretty sure thats right.

I want to know more about the guy thing though D:<

[Kakashi_Love]

well, when I like a guy or have a crush on him...I usually ignore him but ███ on him from a distance. Also by some mysterious power, I would also happen to be exactly where he is most of the time :laugh

[Bleach Me]

when i like a girl...

i tell her :blink

hahaha!!! I used to be all shy and shit, but then I was like... "Hmm, why am I torchuring myself? She either likes me or she doesnt and there is only 1 way to find out!!!"

So, I ask em. If they like me, GREAT! If they dont, sad... But alot better then that unknown, unsure feeling you get when you DONT know!!

:p

[Eden Prime]

well, when I like a guy or have a crush on him...I usually ignore him but ███ on him from a distance. Also by some mysterious power, I would also happen to be exactly where he is most of the time :laugh

That's illegal in like, 40 states.

[Sir.Cruz]

Wow, I must say that all of the girls I was romantically interested in have turned out to be quite nice people.

I always mess things up in some way or another though...

Currently:I'm at a fight with myself over a few ideas. All of them suck.
1)Date the girl I know likes me.
2)Try and get back together with a girl I can't seem to get over no matter what she says about me.
3)Try and escalate my relationship with a girl I've been interested in forever who's friends with me.

Anyways, signs a guy likes you are:

If he smiles a lot.
If he tries to make dumb jokes.
If he always wants you near him even if you don't do anything together.
If he calls you randomly.
If he doesn't share much at all with his friends on you.
If he keeps saying how much he loves you even when you aren't there.
If he tries to create some kind of nickname for you.
If he always tries to give you a hug when he sees you.
If he stops doing well in classes just to help you.

Those are a few. More to come when I have time.

[Kitsune101]

Meh. Doesn't this stuff come with a handbook T.T

[Shadow of the Lotus]

From what I've seen, you can tell a girl likes you if...

- She makes a concerted effort towards being around you if she doesn't even know you that well.
- Gives you things to hold onto and trust you to keep them.
- Smiles at you a lot.
- Is goofy or messes up a lot more than usual around you.
- Tries to share things she likes with you.
- Invites you over to her house to check something out (I've had it happen 5 or so times. It's weird, lol).
- (An obvious one) Stalks you at a dance and later asks you to dance with her during a slow song.
- Compliments you or says that you're a really good person and that she admires you.

That's all I can think up for now.

[agenta_hatake0915]

If a guy acts nice to you (making sure you're involved in the game or whatever) and always kinda tries to get your attention (like kicking your foot under the table) does that mean he's interested?

[Shadow of the Lotus]

^ My advice on this is that it's a hard one to place. I try to get various female friends involved in games of poker my guy friends and I play from time to time, and also I sometimes playfully kick my best friend or some other cloes female friends, but I don't like them in that sense. It would really depend on the person, but I would look for other reasons as well.

[Jester12]

If a guy acts nice to you (making sure you're involved in the game or whatever) and always kinda tries to get your attention (like kicking your foot under the table) does that mean he's interested?

That is possible but not always. If a guy invites you to join him in a game it could symbolize that you are 'one of the guys' in his eyes... which could work to your advantage

The second part though... hands down yes!

[Aidire]

Anyways, signs a guy likes you are:

If he smiles a lot.
If he tries to make dumb jokes.
If he always wants you near him even if you don't do anything together.
If he calls you randomly.
If he doesn't share much at all with his friends on you.
If he keeps saying how much he loves you even when you aren't there.
If he tries to create some kind of nickname for you.
If he always tries to give you a hug when he sees you.
If he stops doing well in classes just to help you.

Those are a few. More to come when I have time.

xD That's the only thing the guy I like does. It's hard to tell if he likes me though, because I only see him in the halls between classes at school. I had him in my history class last year, so that's how I kind of got to see him and I grew to like him. Maybe someone can give me advice on what has happened between him and me o.o

Okay, near the end of the school year, we were doing essays for our final because our teacher wanted to get them out of the way so we'd just have multiple questions for the actual final. The desks were set up in rows and the guy I like sat to my right (and behind a girl friend of his). Well, about twenty minutes later, I was done with my essay and the guy (his name is Rolando, or Rolo for short) was fooling around. I'm sure he had written something, because before we started, he asked me something about one of the prompts (and I helped him out and he said thank you x3). Anyway, he was sitting there and out of the corner of my eye, I saw him wave at me. I just looked at him, out of the corner of my eye, and smiled a bit. A few minutes later after he had turned in his essay and was back in his desk, he waved again, so I finally looked at him and smiled. He goes, "Wow, you don't like to talk much. Why not?" I told him, "Because I just don't like talking." He asked, "You just don't like talking?" And he was quiet for a few seconds. He kind of smiled at me too (I have this all recorded in my LJ xD). So, then he started asking me questions like, "Do you watch a lot of TV?" And we were talking about Adult Swim and Inuyasha (who he forgot the name of until I told him; he also kept saying he was a cat instead of a dog, but I didn't correct him, lol).

My mom works at my school and she has her own computer lab. One morning last week, I was in there when I heard footsteps and a few seconds later, Rolo came into the room. He wanted to do something with his cellphone and the computer. Anyway, the bell rang to go to first period and I left my mom's lab. Halfway down the hall, I realized I had forgotten my cellphone, so I went back and got it. When I was leaving again, Rolo tells me, "Hey, make sure you don't let anyone see that. I've already had two of mine stolen because of that." I didn't thank him or anything, but I smiled/laughed and looked at him to let him know I heard him.

Sorry that was so long -.- But yeah, maybe a guy can help me on this? I have to point out though, that Rolo is overall a nice guy. I just can't help but think maybe he could like me or he could end up liking me if I were to get to know him better. Not having him in any of my classes makes that so hard though ><; He isn't in honors classes like me, so...yeah. I'm also pretty shy, so I will probably never go up to him and ask, "Can I have your cellphone number?" I already looked for his house number in the phonebook (because I'm a 100% stalker; I know a ton of information about him...scary), but that would be really weird. I would ask for an AIM screenname or something, but if I asked, "What's your AIM sn?" and he told me he didn't have one, I'd be embarrassed. I think if I were to be alone with him in a room or something, I wouldn't have a problem asking him. It's when others are around that I get really nervous. I really shouldn't be though, because like I said, he's very nice and he's never been rude to me or anything.

[Shadow of the Lotus]

^ :crying... That sounds a lot like how one girl acted towards me for two years. I was the shy one who just sorta followed her around but loved every moment of it. I was actually lucky because I had a 3 hour bus ride with only her on the bus for two years, but I got too nervous to do anything about it (btw this is 5 years ago). I never got over my crush on her though. To be honest, I stalked her (knew her house, phone number, an old email adress she nevre used, etc...) but I nevre did anything about it. I had two relationships trying to forget her, but they didn't work. I just got out of a relationship, and I thought of her shortly after it. I actually tried to get in contact with her last friday. Haven't heard anything back from her yet :D. I think I might have scared her by admitting to stalk her a bit. Point of the story, I'm having this issue resolved after not having talked to her for 3 years. If you really like this guy, as much as I liked this girl, you can not be shy about it. It will tear you apart. Now, I have no idea if this one girl liked me, but I'm resolving it 3 years after it should have been resolved. I personally think that you should try to figure it out, approach him and ask him, before it developes into a depressive sort of "OMG. I haven't talkd to that preson for so long. I'm too nervous too though because he's so busy and I have no classes with him and he probably forgot about me *shuns self*" :ninja Not that I did anything of that sort. I wish you luck on your endeavor and I hope for my own.

[Aidire]

^.^ Thank you for giving me that advice. I don't know how many times I've told other people to be brave and go for something (whether it was dating-related or not), but here I am, too shy for my own good. Like I said, I don't know why I should be so nervous around him, since he's so nice to me. And, like I tell other people, all he can do is tell me no. I'm thinking about maybe talking to him this Friday at lunch. I usually spend that time in my mom's room, but I know Rolo has the same lunch period as me. My mom said she saw him hanging out by the culinary classroom, so I don't know if he was alone or not. And, this was...two weeks ago, I think. He might still hang out there or he might've decided to spend lunch somewhere else. I'm gonna be with my sister though (it's a half-day and my mom is thinking about staying home, so she'll make me stay with my sister). Actually, she would probably see him and go, "Let's go talk to him!" and then we'll get over there and she'll leave me alone with him...She knows how much I like him. Heck, my whole family does.

I'm going to start off slow though. Ask for his AIM screenname or just plain old, "Do you have an instant messenger screenname?" That way, he can be like, "Yeah, I have *insert service here*." Then, if I get his SN, I can talk to him, get to know him better, and when I feel like the time is right, ask for his cell phone number, then continue on from there...

x.x See, I can plan all this stuff out, but it depends on me and whether or not I can really be brave enough to do what I want. There must be something there to make me like him so much though. I've liked him since around May 7th, 2005 and I thought about him a lot over the summer. Actually, if I had been brave enough, I would've taken my yearbook to history class the last few days of the school year and asked for his SN (once again, if he had one). I was going to, but the darm thing is so heavy ;_; That and my shyness made me not take it.

Anyway, once again, thank you :) And, good luck with your situation!

PS I'm still open to advice from anyone else.

[Shadow of the Lotus]

^ One more go from me before I work on calculus some more tonight. I applaude bravery on this manner greatly, and wish you the best of luck with your endeavor. It's a hard thing to be brave at times, but it can pay off. It's sometimes hard to place why we like a person. A bit of the reason I was so nervous around the girl I liked was that she is not only the number one teenager breast-stroke, or something like that, swimmer in the ENTIRE NATION, but also the soon-to-be vallivictorian(sp?) of an IB school, which is saying a lot. Just try to be as calm and collected about this as possible, and I think you'll do well :leepose.

[Aidire]

^ xD I think I'm so nervous around him because he's cute. My mom will even go as far as to say, "Rolo's such a cutie/hottie." Kind of creepy. But, anyway, I will try my best to be brave and go through with my "plan". Not only will I be able to know if he likes me or not, but it'll be a big accomplishment for me since I've been this way my whole life. I should be brave enough, especially since I went on The Hulk at Islands of Adventure this summer, even though I said I wouldn't. I was scared. That took a lot of bravery on my part and in the end, I was so happy that I went on it. If I can be brave enough to go on that roller coaster, just talking to Rolo should be a breeze...hehe.

[Kno7]

From what I've experienced, the only symptoms I could say would be:


When she's not your friend:

She starts a casual conversation with you. Just like that.
She's around you a lot, or looking at you from far.
She gives you her picture.
She makes up a stupid reason of how she got your msn/email, and starts talking to you every time you sign up.

Now if she were your friend:

She gives you her number.
She tells you she wonders how come you don't call her.
She tries to spend as much time possible with you.
She takes every chance of touching you, wether it's hugging or a massage when your tired, or to feel your forehead when you're feeling ill.
She smiles at you deliberantly.

When a guy likes a girl:

He tends to be nervous around her.
He tries to show off around her.
In class, he normally stares at you if you're in front of him.
He compliments her out of the blue. Normal friends don't do that. (Did you know you have beautiful eyes? (never did that, but I've seen it :P))

That's about all I can come up with. Of course, a lot of them could be just an act of affection between 2 good friends, as a lot of those had happened between friends and people I've liked/that have liked me.

[brownsm]

i think the key thing is attention.thats what iv found from the past.someone who talks to u alot and stares at ya

[Sakashi]

bleh, im totally useless at these kind of stuff when it's happenning to me. But when it's happenning to someone else, i pick it up straight away... hmm... strange eh?
e.g... i thought this girl liked me but she actually didn't. I thought this girl hated me, but she actually liked me... ~.~ BUT i can tell who likes who straight away... bleh... well here are my tips from wot i've seen and personal experience.

To know if girls like you or not:
-Quickly glances away when u look at her
-Never makes eye contact with you when ur close to her.
-Talks to u alot on the internet. (non-stop talking... close to spam... lol)
-Randomly has ur phone number when u obviously didn't give it to her... (BIG SIGN)
-U meet her more often than usual
-U suddenly find her in ur arms at the school Dance. (lol~ w00t, love it when this happens.)
-Or, She teases you, ignores you when there is alot of ppl around, but is suddenly really really nice to u when ur alone with her.

This is wot i do when i like a girl:
-Stare at her, glance away when she realised im staring at her.
-Smile at her alot
-Be very nice to her
-My personality totally changes when im around her. E.g im usually one of those joking-funny types, but when she's around, none of my humour seems to appear.. dammit...
-Asks for her MSN/e.g and phone num
-talks to her alot on the internet and say stuff that is really encouraging.


thats about all i can think of.

[Fairy_Wings_Ninja]

sorry if sum1 else has pretty much already said this BUT why has their got to be rules and stuff?! I sumtimes find it annoying because in the past I've REALLY liked a guy and have regreted being too shy and not talking to them but then I thought well they didnt make an effort to tlak to me so I guessed they didnt feel the same but now, if i like a boy, I make sure he see's me looking but not so I look like a stalker lol! But then everytime I've tried this and a a boy gives me the impression he likes me back, he doesnt do anythign about it and all of a sudden my nerves come back and I dont either but only because I feel like he's not interested! without trying to sound big-headed, I have the kind of personality where I get on with anyone becasue I'm open minded but I never get the chance to show that to a boy because everyone tries to act not bothered rather than jsut going up to someone and saying HI, I LIKE YOU! It would be so much easier even though I know there are some right arse's out there who like to be mean and lead people on or jsut unpolitly turn you down! but for God's sake..why can everyone jsut say when they like some and stop messing around with all this acting ..... this way alot more ppl would be ahppy and not lonely :sad

[agenta_hatake0915]

Would you consider stalking (staring from afar, trying to know as much info about the person, like their e-mail or mobile number) normal when you like someone? Like, you don't harm them, but just try to know as much about them as possible. Or would that be weird?

[Shadow of the Lotus]

^ I've done it before, and I would consider it normal. One of the first signs of abnormal, or unhealthy, stalking is a belief that you and the person you are stalking are similar. This is not to say "oh wow, we have the same sort of likes," this is more to say "I am merely a male reincarnation of the person I am stalking." When this happens, you are going down the path of abnormal stalking which can lead to acting out on subconscious sexual fantasies with the person, and later death. Not to freak people out by it, but it's one of the early signs. I caught myself doing that, and made a point to stop myself from getting near that person ever again. As to rules and the like, I have actually had trouble over it because so many people seem to want the rules. I am very much against the rules (though I like to keep up chivalry) when it comes to the asking game at least. This is in part because I'm a shy guy (or at least was) and also because I find it ludicrious for girls not to go up to someone they like and tell that person about it. I am actually currently lonely/depressed/feel defeated, but that's because the thing with the girl I used to like a long time ago went no where (she made a point to dodge me. I think I scared her by being honest about everything) and also because I did just get out of a relationship. Times acn be hard, but they'll look up. My advice for all; be yourself and don't let rules and such get in your way. However, make it a point to keep a healthy distance between you adn the person to prevent stalking. If you want to know more about a person, that's fine, ubt don't stalk them TOO much. It's not healthy folks.

[haunted]

Well here are some that have been 100% in my experience. You need more or less all 3.

girl likes:
1. leans over towards you, either over table, or if you're sitting down n she is standing up
2. Exposes wrists/ opens them to you/points them towards you
3. Pupils dialate

[Personal Jesus]

Ah, hell.. might as well throw my pennies in the mix. When a dude likes a chick (aka, what PJ would and have done when he's interested in a pretty lady):

-He'll talk to the chick, and actually appear genuinely interested in the conversation.
-He'll try to be smooth, but end up looking like a dumbass. Interesting, sometimes his failed attempt will be what impresses the lady, depending on her personality and how certain things appeal to her.
-He'll crack jokes. Non-stop. It'll be as if he's in an audition for the next "Last Comic Standing" or something.
-A shy man will, of course, keep a safe distance from a chick he wants to bang. He's either too intimidated to even look in her direction, or he's gone and done pissed his pants and is trying to keep the stench away from the girl. Poor bastard.
-Compliments. If not compliments, then words of encouragement to show a lady he cares about her. No one knows whether or not he really does, though... not even himself.
-If the chick of his fancy is within a 30 feet radius, he'll turn into the most obnoxious jackass you'll ever see. This is to prove his manliness to the babe. Often time, he'll do it at the expense of his buddies. The classic phrase, "Bros Before Hoes", does not exist in his mind when it comes to impressing that babe with the sweet ass.
-Some dudes will suddenly possess detective skills that would make Batman and Dick Tracy green with envy. By the third day, he'll have the girl's phone number, address, lunch hour, her sister's birthday, and the number of panties she keeps in her drawer. Trust me on this one.

[sharinggan]

-Some dudes will suddenly possess detective skills that would make Batman and Dick Tracy green with envy. By the third day, he'll have the girl's phone number, address, lunch hour, her sister's birthday, and the number of panties she keeps in her drawer. Trust me on this one.

:laugh i think that could barely touch the fine line between finding stuff out about a person and stalking them

[Tenten's missing lastname]

you know, the majority of these just contradict eachother. o_O

[Sakashi]

it depends on the personality of the person.
Shy = stalky, staring
non-shy = tease u, loud mouth. talks to u. attention seeking.

And i think it's ok for a girl to stalk, cause....dunno... just seems ok for a girl to stalk a guy...
but for a guy to stalk a girl!!.... that is just wrong. Guys should just confront them, cause
1. ur a guy, u've got nuts, use them.
2. a guy stalking is no long a guy, more of a sissy.

[meekozy]

I don't ever do any of that to a guy and no guy has done that to me before.......No one likes me and I don't like anyone.....

[agenta_hatake0915]

I've kinda stalked the guy I liked in the past before...like "casually" dropping questions as to where he lives, what his e-mail address is, what his mobile number is... And as to what Shadow of the Lotus said, I do have fantasies..they're less sexual though..just like : What it'll be like if I meet him on the street...what if I bump into him...that sort of thing.

[sharinggan]

haha, i did the same stuff, minus the stalking...

[Kitsune101]

it depends on the personality of the person.
Shy = stalky, staring
non-shy = tease u, loud mouth. talks to u. attention seeking.

And i think it's ok for a girl to stalk, cause....dunno... just seems ok for a girl to stalk a guy...
but for a guy to stalk a girl!!.... that is just wrong. Guys should just confront them, cause
1. ur a guy, u've got nuts, use them.
2. a guy stalking is no long a guy, more of a sissy.

Really? I do? Aw man, I didn't know that.

[Shinigami-Isshin]

man, yall kids is halarious. you how a girl like you? YOU MAKE HER LIKE YOU.

i learn this back in high school, you have to make sure you do these things to ALL girls, friends, potential dates, bosses, family ALL of them. this will help you out in the long run:

1) PAY ATTENTION TO EVERYTHING ABOUT A GIRL. you should create a photographic memory for urself and use that on all girls. U should know what a girl looked like yesterday and know thats somethings different today. once you see its different ask/say something about it. "You highlighted your hair" or " what kind of fragrance is that" girls will love that you noticed something about them and verbally say so "yeah, wow you noticed" girls will think of you as the perceptive instead of the average dude that wouldnt notice if she came to school with a mohawk.

2)Remember everything she says. every conversation you have with her, remember every detail about her she gives you. if you have a bad memory, try to remember something important. Start with family names then move on to personal stories, current issues. it goes back to #1, if she knows ur paying attention, she'll think ur a good listener, Which is a good trait in a potential BF. "good work, you remebered" is usually the general statement in this situation.

3)dont be exclusively nice to her. be friends with her friends. By this point the girl should allready have an idea that you like her enough for her to introduce you to her clique if you dont allready know them. Make sure you treat her friends as people and not just accessories to the girl in question. If you are so bold, try conversing with them even though the girl is not around. Girlfriends can have a big sway on their friend's potential guy. If ur in with their friends and dont come off as trying to do what i just said just to get the girl, they'll never realize it. you want good communication with the friends so you can figure out whats going on with the liked girl.


most of these points work the same if ur a girl, guys like compliments just as much, we just dont show it. we like to know you care about what we're doing. and we want our friends to be friends with you too, unless they going to try to pull you from under us, then rule 3 is out the window.

now, if you dont HAVE to do what i just said, and you think a boy likes you this is what to look for:

1)dude will find out alot about you. Guys do PI work. most girls have connections so they'll find out sooner or later
2)if hes not to shy about it, he'll incorporate you into discussion, its a way of figuring stuff out about you in a group setting, but still letting you know he wants to know the information.
3)He will find you. if he finds the opputunity to converse with you in a non class setting(lunch, before/after school) he will do it. most guys try to befriend the girls friend in order to have a inside woman putting in good words. if he is allready friends with the friend, they should be in with you pretty fast.
4)Most of the time when a guy plans something(eg get together with friends, a meet up at lunch etc), a girl alllready knows about him doing it for you, so dont be a bitch and call him out for not being more secretive, say "aww he did all this so we could hang out"
5)they will be ur willing pwn. its sad, ive been one, but a guy will do anything for you if he likes you enough. if he even remotely believes doing something for you will get in your good graces, YOU WILL OWN HIM

that is all, discuss.

ps:for some reason non of this works if the girls has a car and you dont. which is where i am right now. or if you meet a nice girl, shes keeping her chastity :mad well not so much mad, more of a :sad or :S <-thats the sexual frustration emoticon

[Kitsune101]

^ Dude, i forget to brush my hair and eat breakfast every morning....there is no way. I'm hopeless T.T

[Shinigami-Isshin]

kitsune-san, i dont ever wake up to eat breakfast. and i brush my teeth at school. If it works for me. it can work for you.

im sorry to use a Napoleon Dynamite reference but girls do like guys with skills. even the skills hes mention, if done properly, could interest a girl. you just have to be able to show them to her in a non-nerdy fashion. never talk about urself unless its relevant. if ur talking about a tv show dont just say "i can play the drums" unless like ur talking about some music video with drumming in it. if you can sing and shes talking about some guy singer she likes and you know the song, belt out a verse and then say "it goes something like that right?" SHE WILL DIE. I play guitar, piano and baritone and i can carbon copy john mayer, man if i had transportation girls would eat me ALIVE. but people are envious now cause i dont have to spend money on gas.

[cube66]

I have (have had) a few girls who like (liked me). But none of them showed the same signs because they all had very different personalities.

Girl 1:

She basically never talked to me even though she sat right next to me in class. But then on Valentines Day she gave me a teddy bear and a glass mug, which was really kind of her. She would also write me little letters talking about what she was doing in class, etc. I had absolutely no attraction to her what-so-ever, even though she was a model. In reality she was full of herself, rude and basically acted like a total bi... well, you know the rest. :wink

Anyway, her signs of attraction to me were the little notes, the random phone calls (which sucked b/c I didn't know her and didn't really want to, yet she wouldn't stop calling me...) and her gifts to me.

Girl #2:

She calls me a loser, dork, stupid, idiot, wierdo, freak, etc. all the time. In some ways I am to her like a younger brother (other people have said this as well), but I have the feeling she likes me. She acts very overly dramatic about everything around me and is a lot of fun. She's Korean however, so her signs of attraction are really hard to read b/c they are so foreign to Americans.

Girl #3:

The girl next door. Basically she wanted me to come over and stay the night as if I were staying with her little brother, but instead I go and sleep in her room. She seriously came up to me and nervously asked me to do it. They're were several reasons why I didn't. First, she was my next-door-neighbor, 2nd she isn't hot, 3rd I didn't like her that way, 4th she's too young, and 5th her parents would mutilate me.

[Shinigami-Isshin]

girl one and three like you, obviously. no girl just calls you out of the blue without something behind it.

girl three wants your nuts, full stop.

girl 2 is a head scratcher. i think PI work is in order. if u have a mutual friend ask her about it. some friends wont give you any information, but some will tell you whatsup.

it seems you dont like girls one or three, so why does it matter?

[sharinggan]

wow, cube66 and shinigami-isshin, good posts, rep for both of u ^^ =)

[mike_william]

Don't worry about all the bullshit signs. If you like a person, go up and ask him/her out, or ask for a phone number, etc. In many cases that's about all you can do to be sure they have any interest in you.

1. Some people might like you but be too shy to talk to you, or even face you. Hell, they might even have a near panic-attack around you. This ruins the assumptions that a person that has interest in you will open conversation with you. The initial attempt at opening up a conversation with these people will likely fall flat on it's face because they are too damned nervous keep the conversation flowing, which will leave you thinking they weren't interested in talking to you. Even though they might feel like puking any time they are in your presence, they still wouldn't turn down an invitation to swap phone numbers/date.

2. Some people that like you will treat you like shit just for attention, and be an overall pain in the ass whenever possible. This obviously ruins about every sign you might normally be looking for. Problem with this approach is that they will more than likely piss you off in the process.

3. Some people will ignore you in an attempt to seem unattainable and thus more desirable to you. What they don't think about is that this really does make them seem unattainable/uninterested, and has a very good chance of scaring the interested person off.

Basically, it's all retarded. Everybody plays a different game when it comes to dealing with people they are interested in, and a lot of the time their behavior is detrimental to letting their target know they are interested.

Stupid human nature.

[kaleidescopesharigan]

I have trouble with this stuff.

[Toushou]

Yeah...I'm just going to revive this, not only for me, but for others. It gave me a lot of help in the great book og "girlz" and it can do so for others. Oh, I am aka Kitsune101.

[Paracetamol Boy]

If a guy points his feet at you while talking, he's pointing at what he wants.
If he likes you he will stare at you while you talk.

When women see an attractive man, their palms face outwards. If they see a guy they like they with blink and look away.

[princesstaco]

Before I got a bf, I would judge whether a guy was interested in me by comparing how he acted around me to how he acted around other girls. If the guy treats you like he treats every other girl, he probably isn't interested...well, at least not in a relationship.


Or you could just start making out with the guy/girl of interest. That'll answer any questions of attraction real quick. :P

[Shishou]

You can't decipher codes, because depending on the girls, they contradict each other.

Plus women enjoy throwing out fake signs! Its a full proof code, that can never be deciphered!