You ever think there's more

[martryn]

I just wanted to know if other people in the world thought about things the same way I did.

Growing up, I was led to believe that I would do everything I ever wanted. Life was full of possibilities. Now that I'm at the age where I have to think about careers and wives and kids and bills and taxes, things are starting to look different and I sorta want out.

I look around me and I see all my friends getting married and settling down, and it scares me. I don't have a single friend who is not either married or engaged, and I'm only 22 (in a month). What the hell? My best friend in high school got married at 19 and dropped out of college to work as a janitor at a high school to support his wife and kid. This guy was brilliantly smart, a talented writer, and a big history/religion buff, and now he's got no future outside of his family. We used to always hang out on the weekends. I knew him better than anyone, and he me. I used to give him advice on everything, and if something happened in his life, I knew about it. We were hella close. But then he got married. I go months without seeing him, and when I do, he won't leave the house as he doesn't want to leave his wife and kid alone. I know I can't blame him for it, but I can't believe that our friendship means so little to him now that he can't free up an hour once every couple of months to have lunch and catch up. And when they invite me over for cake and tea or something, I arrive and they seem to not notice me, going about their routine whilst I sit and wait in the living room for someone to talk to me.

I don't want this to happen to me. I don't want to settle down. I don't want to have kids in the next five years. Yet every girlfriend I get seem to think that that is the most important thing right now. Guys are the ones who pop the question, right? So why are they the ones always bringing it up? Why do I have to tell women I am seeing I love them when I don't? Why can't two people date for fun and recreational sex? Where are the women who I CAN fall in love with, the ones that think the same as I, and feel that they don't have to settle down and start a bloody family the moment we get married?

I want to travel. I want to live in hotels. I want to go from job to job. I want to find a group of pals who don't have to answer to a feminine presence. I still believe that big things await me, and that life is still full of itself. That I am special in some way and don't have to conform to the conditions and standards that society seems all too content to set. That the big adventure that is life doesn't have to stop just because I am adult. That the tedium I am experiencing now is passing. That life isn't over yet.

Anyone else feel that way? Anyone feel that life is sorta not as exciting as you get older, yet it shoud be? What am I doing wrong?

Teenagers, live it up now, and don't give in to peer pressure. Don't burn bridges.

[Robo-Pope]

Welcome to the world of Murphy's laws, man.
When it can't possibly get worse, it does.
In the end, you will do what you want. You will do what you feel is best for you. Whether you choose to live within the tight limits that society has put on you or to discard those limits, it is, in the end, your choice.

Just remember that the grass isn't always greener on the other side.

[Shinobu]

I think when your in your 20's, that you shouldn't have to worry about getting married or stuff like that.Getting married is when your settling down, and at that age it doesnt seem like a good time, unless your fianancial ready to support a whole family.I think marriage should be in your 30's because you still have time to live and explore.Its best to enjoy your life when your young, because when you get old, you'll be too busy raising your kids and paying a buttload of bills.

Well just dont get married yet and enjoy life. :smile-big

[UltraSynaptic SeizureNinja]

Anyone else feel that way? Anyone feel that life is sorta not as exciting as you get older, yet it shoud be? What am I doing wrong?


I've been thinking the same way recently as well. The thing is, you gotta grab opportunity by the balls in order to really get the most out of life. That's what I've done, and even though I can honestly tell you that not much has changed, its still interesting nonetheless.

[Robo-Pope]

Just don't get to feeling like your hand is forced, because if you think it is, it will be.

[Neji 25]

hmm, i noticed your situation is very different from at least the people i know in their 20s. Mostly people your age are in college and their more worried about what to do in their life and the LAST thing they have in their mind is having a family. Could be society? Where do you live? I swear, at least in Miami, Fl....NO ONE wants kids or get married at your age range. I mean, everyone wants to study, party, explore the world while they can. COME LIVE OVER HERE! =P

OK well honestly, dont feel stressed or pressured because everyone you know is settling that way. Its their loss. They may seem happy for a while that they're all settled and married...but when they hit their 30s and over, they're going to regret having "grown" so early. Then you can be like "well I SURE did enjoy my youth". Seriously, we only live once. And you're going to be 22 only once.
I'm female and i certainly DO NOT want to get married or be anywhere near a kid til I'm at least 25. My best advice is to follow what YOU think is right. Coz it is your life. No one elses. And dont suffer for your friend's early family situations. It's not fair for you. All you can do is sigh in relief and be HAPPY you're not in their shoes!

Be happy ::hands cookie::

[Zero5]

I'm pretty young and some of that went over my head and some of it I understood.
Like the thing about all your friends getting married I kinda get left behind seeing all my friends getting girlfriends and not me. I feel glad for them but they just get more distant with me and I see less and less of them and them learn less about what is going on with them.
As i've gotten older i've found that things that used to be fun have gotten duller. Just gotta make the best of it.

[kitlim]

Well, I am 21 and marriage is the last thing on my mine at the moment. I think that when you are in your early 20s, you feel that there are lots of possibilities in your life that you want to explore, and you don't want to give up these opportunities as yet by getting married and carrying a huge burden of responsibilities and burden. But I do believe that there will be a time that you will need to come to settle down. And I guess that the best time to do that for a guy is when you are nearing your 30s and in your 30s. I don't know about the rest, but I am a firm believer that you will not be complete if you don't start your own family. It's part of the family life cycle.

[martryn]

I swear, at least in Miami, Fl....NO ONE wants kids or get married at your age range.

*Makes plans to move to Miami*

I live in Southern Arkansas, and I am the exception here, not the rule. In lab the other day the girls in my class were telling each other to hurry up and get pregnant and have a kid already. My female lab partner (who got married over Spring Break) was telling me that she's pregnant already, and she was encouraging another girl who got married last year to have one too, and the other girl's response? She's trying to.

It seems like down here that 75% of the seniors are married. I feel incredibly odd. Why would the top female student in the chemistry department throw away med school for kids. Once you have a kid, finding the time to go back to med school is going to be hella hard.

I'm female and i certainly DO NOT want to get married or be anywhere near a kid til I'm at least 25.

You're a girl? Geez, who'd have thunk it?

And I'm with you. I want to get married and have kids... some day, but not until my late twenties early thirties when I'm financially secure, like Shinobu said. Until then, i want to travel and see the world.

Be happy ::hands cookie::

*eats cookie*

As i've gotten older i've found that things that used to be fun have gotten duller.

Oh man, don't say that. You're only thirteen, much too young to think life is getting boring. I guess it'll pick up for you around 15, so don't let that go when it comes around. Live it up, and don't stop living it up until life forces you to. When I was 13 I was STILL playing GI Joe and Ninja Turtles.

And you don't need a girlfriend yet. At least wait until you can drive to start TRYING to get one, as that's sorta a requirement in most places for a successful date: transportation. But at the same time, don't let oppurtunties that present themselves pass you up, just don't go looking for them.

[Neji 25]

are you serious??! Thats crazy how these girls you say actually plan and talk about that. I dont want to stereotype, but you're in the south, and it's rep is usually really young people having 743897829 children already..etc. (although Miami is even lower, but its a big city and ..well im sure you know, its a melting pot of culture)
wow, i feel for you, just COME OVER HERE. I know if you go to a major city you wouldnt encounter that. People are like AFRAID of marriage and of pregnancy at that age. Hope you liked the cookie =P

[martryn]

Well I thought it was odd myself, so I'm glad that I'm not the only one who thinks this way. Course I've never fit in down here in the South. I like small cars, not big trucks. I like punk, not country. My favorite sport is hockey, not baseball or Nascar. I wear pants, not jeans. Ect.

My current best friend was a bachelor like me until last summer when he met a girl (I introduced them, damnit!) and now has fallen head over heels in love with her. It wouldn't be so bad, except that he ditches me all the time for her. An example:
The two of us were going to see our girlfriends' dance thingy (they both were members of the same troupe). We show up together, go in together, but he strikes up a conversation with his girlfriends mom and then proceeds to ignore me. She doesn't seem to know I am there. Next thing you know, he's sitting between her and his girlfriend's aunt, and he still hasn't introduced me or acknowledged that I'm still there, and I'm left sitting by myself several rows back.

It's not that I don't want to fall in love or meet the right one, its just that I don't want to sacrifice what I have now: freedom. I feel just like Bambi did in that Disney movie.

[darkmask]

I currently dont have a girlfriend but one day I was hanging out with this girl while her boyfriend was away on some trip. We were just messin around (Nothing Dirty) and like somehow we got on the topic of marriage and she told me that were gonna get married. I played alog thinking it was a joke and she told me she would be right back. She went to her room (Still lives with parents) and came back with like 10 Wedding Magazines, I still thoguht she was just seeing how far I would go so I played a long. Yeah well I think this girl actually wants to marry me and im only 20! She said we would get married in like 5 years or something, I really didint think about this until I read this topic.

I really dont wanna get married at a young age, if I do I wont be able to join the Special Forces.

[martryn]

I really dont wanna get married at a young age, if I do I wont be able to join the Special Forces.

Always a catch, eh? Well, I don't see any purpose of getting married at a young age. One of the girlfriends I was talking about seemed really serious about marriage and dragged me off to jewlers and what not to look for engagement rings. I told her that if she was serious, then we should move in together, and she was totally against it. She was okay with sex, but not with living together, yet she was the one who wanted to get hitched as soon as possible. Doesn't make sense to me.

[Kaeriuchi]

Why do I have to tell women I am seeing I love them when I don't? Why can't two people date for fun and recreational sex?

Basically I agree fully with your post....except ^this^ bit. :huh
But anyway. :P
I guess it's almost become a tradition, settle down, get married --> have kids.
I don't get it either. XD My parents kept saying "When you have kids, blabla", and they were so surprised when I said I probably don't even want kids.
It IS possible, you know. Do what you want with your life.

[martryn]

Well, to clarify:

When I date a girl for very long, sooner or later she is going to say those three little words and expect a reply. I guard love very ferociously, and it is hard for me to just tell a girl that I love them, yet that is what they expect.

As for the dating thing... why does dating always have to be a precursor to marriage for most girls? When I date, I just wanna have fun and be with someone. I want to feel important to someone, and have some support from someone when I need it. And I'm not sex crazy, or anything. Its nice, but there are better things in the world. Usually its the women in the relationship who always initiate sex with me, not the other way around. And I don't try to stop them, but there are times when they think it meant something more than it did. They force it on me, not that I was unwilling or offer any amount of protest, and yet then they make it seem like I'm obligated to them? No thank you!

[erosennin-fin]

get a grip of yourself!!! if u think theres great things in life that are about to happen to u, they wont happen if u sit there waiting for it :nono . i'd say get that trip to somewhere far away and live!!! travelling isnt that expensive if u dont buy your trips from travelling agents. and for the woman part theres propably one whos thinking the same way... u just have to find her!

[martryn]

Well, I do have a plan...

I have been practicing really hard on my poker game, have read all the books, studied the moves on TV, and even know casino etiquette. This weekend I am being sponsored to play at the Hollywood casino in Shreveport. Talk about living a dream. If I can make this work for me...

But I can't really go anywhere at the moment as I am already being tied down with school, and I'm not that crazy to think that I won't need a degree in the future sometime, at least as a fallback. Don't burn bridges, as my parents always used to say.

[Aruarian Dance]

Never let a woman come in the way of your long-range goals. I also have to give you props, as I am also a chemist. I also happened to know a girl in my lab who gave up her doctorate degree to follow her husband across the country. It's sad, but it happens. Evaluate your priorities, and see where it all fits.

[Praetoriani]

Heh, I'm 16 and I have a chronical case of boredom. I swear, the highlight of my week is the dattebayo Naruto episode and an hour of Karate friday evening. I'm sort of like you, in a different way. I can't be arsed with going out, getting drunk, party, getting a new girlfriend every other week, like everybody else is doing. Seems so pointless, but everything I do currently is pointless to. But when you go out here, it's almost a requirement that you take up (IMHO) stupid bullshit like brand clothing and fashion. I'm way too lazy for all that shit, but its all everybody else talks about. Getting drunk, getting laid, getting a new pair of 200 euro jeans.

[roguenoir]

Heh, I feel the same way, man. Being an only child of parents who came from large families, there is much pressure to marry and have kids FAST. However, most people I know around my age, at least in California, have similar views of not wanting to settle down early on.

I guess 9/11 was a big wake-up call to me.. that our lives could end at any moment. I have many dreams and aspirations for the future but it's possible that those dreams may never come. Though these dreams give me something to look forward to, there are countless little things in life that are equally powerful in bringing happiness. Such as:

- Smelling the food outside a restaurant and then going there to satisfy your cravings.
- Hearing a cool song on the radio or your friend's playlist and then getting the artist's newest album (or MP3s for the pirates out there! :P )
- Talking to a cute girl you see on the street or in the mall who you'd probably never see again if you don't meet her.
- Dreaming of doing something wonderful, waking up, and actually doing that (assuming it's nothing dangerous, farfetched, or immoral.)
And the list goes on...

Of course, at the same time, you don't want to be a homeless bum so you'll want to have a decent job, preferably something you enjoy.. which means staying in school and getting that degree. But once you have life's necessities taken care of, it's time to live to your heart's content (as long as it's nothing immoral.)

Bleh.. I've been thinking about this for over an hour at 5am when I'm supposed to be going back to sleep.. hopefully I'm making sense and not going on and on.. *yawns*

[Voynich]

*relieved sigh*

My family's rant: Don't ever get married! If you get knocked up or do get married before you're 27 we will personally kill you.

Well along that lines. My friend is 18 and she got engaged this year..she's gonna marry him in June. I had a major WTF?! experience. I'm 18 and I still don't have a decent bf. I like doing childish stuff like skating through the mall or playing with Lego. Just the idea of being engaged give me the quivers. It's like a new trend. After the 90's where people enjoyed being young as long as possible, we go back to people getting married before they are 25. Apparently that trend moves in waves too. Maybe it has to do with economy. Getting married provides security...of some sort. I'd say time for a research.

[Robo-Pope]

Oh, and you have caused me to finally confirm 100% that never in my life will I live in the South. That is one fucked-up culture, dude.

[jeffreysuk]

ur friend got married at 19?
im 19 - -

[Robo-Pope]

ur friend got married at 19?
im 19 - -
Tip of the Day: Don't move to the South :amuse

[Neji 25]

Tip of the Day: Don't move to the South :amuse

yea, seriously!

Unless you're going to Miami,FL !
(we're the penis of the US cant go any farther down than that) :smile-big

[martryn]

I really want to get away from here. I don't fit into the Southern lifestyle. I want to move to Boston, or upstate California, or Colorado. Maybe way up north in one of those states that border Canada. My spring break sucked too. I was going to go backpacking across the Ozarks with this good friend of mine when the Wednesday before he calls me up and says that his fiance', that lives in fucking California and that he flies out to see twice a month, invited him to the Carribean. FUCK! My plans foiled. The guy is only 19 himself, what the fuck is he doing with a girlfrined that lives 2000 miles away? Why does he want to get married? Damnit!
I spent Spring Break in my parents' basement playing FFX while all my other good friends went to Vegas, a trip I declined because I had other plans.

[Aruarian Dance]

Heh...Start moving to the coasts and to the north and you should be fine.

[A2L]

*whistles* damn that is some crazy shit. Thank god i moved otu of the south for middle school. I wonder if any of my old friends are married or have kids... wow.
Thank god for california... of coruse if i stayed maybe i'd be getting some action right now instead of typing on my computer.

[AdventD]

Heh, I decided a long time ago and reaffirmed this year that after college I'm going to get a job for a few years, save up enough money and go on an adventure and see the world. I want to explore and see the sights and continue to live my youth out and not see it fade away. To be honest things like relationships and marriage(if it were to happen)I could put on hold until I satisfied my thirst for life. Nothing's going to keep me down from fulfilling my dreams.

[narutonut]

Life is what you make it. Simple as that. Just as long as you believe it's that simple.

I'm going to become a international relief worker or an analyst for the UN. That way, I don't have to stay in one place for long periods of time. :blink

[roguenoir]

I really want to get away from here. I don't fit into the Southern lifestyle. I want to move to Boston, or upstate California, or Colorado. Maybe way up north in one of those states that border Canada. My spring break sucked too. I was going to go backpacking across the Ozarks with this good friend of mine when the Wednesday before he calls me up and says that his fiance', that lives in fucking California and that he flies out to see twice a month, invited him to the Carribean. FUCK! My plans foiled. The guy is only 19 himself, what the fuck is he doing with a girlfrined that lives 2000 miles away? Why does he want to get married? Damnit!
I spent Spring Break in my parents' basement playing FFX while all my other good friends went to Vegas, a trip I declined because I had other plans.

Do you live in a big city or a smalltown? I'm thinking there will be a difference in the ppl's attitude if you go to a larger city though not as great as moving to one of the coasts.

[materix01]

Life is too short to waste ppl :P
I wonder what I am doing wasting my time in NF?
Guess it could be considered a grasp for knowledge :)

[martryn]

Do you live in a big city or a smalltown? I'm thinking there will be a difference in the ppl's attitude if you go to a larger city though not as great as moving to one of the coasts.

Well, not really either. Where I'm going to school is a small town of 15,000, but most of the friends I am talking about are from back home, and I live in a metropolitan area of about 140,000 (the Ft Smith, Van Buren, Barling area), which I consider a city.

[Tessen]

I am 22 and getting married in May. The whole thing about saying "I love you"...most ppl just saying so they can feel like they are wanted. I didn't think I was going to get married and have a child until later on in my years, but here I am with a little girl and soon to wear the ball-and-chain. Everybody wants to lead their lives differently. SO what if the person dropped med school to go live and travel with the person they are going to be with, that's their life. Even so, med school isn't a once in a lifetime thing. Yeah, so it's going to be harder...that's the way life is. There is no real easy way of life. I know ppl look at me sometimes with the "she's too young to have kids" look. I don't care because I figure it like this: Take care of my little girl, go to school when she does and they when she graduates I'll still be young enough and have money to do whatever I want. Having a kid hasn't stopped me from traveling either. I travel up and down the east coast every few months and my future plans are St. Thomas, Philippines, Europe and Japan.
"The hand you hold is the hand that holds you down"

[materix01]

I guess I will have to start thinking about these things in 5+ years time :(
Guess I can enjoy myself till then :)

[Hyuuga-YoungIsh]

OMFG man i am feeling the same way i hate that im getting older and the weight of the world is getting heavier and heavier. Its my senior year in highschool and everthing is coming to an end. I wish i could start all over but i cant, so i have to get serious about picking my life career and my girlfriend is talking about getting pregnant WTF is wrong with her im 17 god dammit. yo growing up stinks too many responsibilities i better cherish these last care free years of mine because they will be ending abruptly. HM?..yeeeeah

[ninjutsu_learner1111]

all i have to say is that i am nineteen just got into a college and found out that it sucks. i now get to worry about tuition fees and other stuff along with feeding myself and doing my own laundery. im just not used to it

[Ninja Genius]

No not me Im the opposite. When I was young I thought there wasn't such thing as happiness and never really thought of dreams and possibilities. I had no emotional attachments to anything. Now as I grow older I dream of having those things that you fear. I would probably be married by now if I was with the right girl. Nothing would make me happier to start a family with the one I love. For you guys it may be "I don't want to settle down because there's too much possibilities but for me the sooner I settle down with the one I love the more and more and more time in this very short life we get to spend with each other.

[martryn]

Well, I'm not saying that marriage is bad, just that at most of out ages we haven't had life yet. We grow up and go to school, and when we graduate we go to college. By the time most people are out of college, they're married. What the hell? You haven't had you time yet. You haven't lived your own life by your own rules yet. Why do you want to marry someone who will impose their rules on you?

I guess if I met the right girl then I would go ahead and get married as well, but the right girl for me now will be one that will let me live my life and not pressure me to have kids. Having a kid is a HUGE responsibility, and requires a lot of time and money. It also restricts things that you can do.

And I'm tired of hearing how people are engaged to be married when they are but 18. This was brought up in another thread, but 18 is much too young. You're still living at home at 18, or else you have just moved out, and now you are wanting to commit your life to someone else? It's foolish. I can speak from experience (as I was once engaged to "the most perfect person in the world", the bitch) and a lot of things change between the ages of 18 and 22. Your outlook on life changes. You need those years to adjust to not relying on someone else, not adjust to relying on a different, younger and less mature someone else. And don't even start on the high divorce rate amongst people who choose to get married young.

[shadowstk]

I am in the same boat. People all around are getting married and trying to have children. I want those things too, just not right now. I training to become a teacher and barely have time for all my classes. Im lucky enough that my parents are still allowing me to stay at home. I dont know how I would fit the time it would take to earn the money needed for even a small apartment in vegas. I have seen far to many great minds quite college simply because they got married earlier than they where to prepared to handle. The sad thing is I also know many people who end up getting divorced 2 or 3 times before age 25 (i know one girl who is 26 and has been divorced 4 times!). Its just not a good idea to rush into something. If you truly love a person, and they truly love you back then you can both afford to wait a little while longer while they work to ensure a stable and safe future.

[martryn]

shadowstk, you are a genius. Seriously. But yeah, you can't even think about getting married if you still live with your parents. Living at home=not independent. No offense or anything as I just moved back in with my father after living two years alone. I also can not think about getting married.

[theoneandonly]

just be individualistic and do not care bout anyone else...that way you'll do fine

[Ninja Genius]

lol martryn. If you get married I think it's implied that you two are moving out. Splitting rent of a one bedroom apartment is something pretty easily accomplished unless you both are working part time jobs and getting paid minium wage.

[martryn]

lol martryn. If you get married I think it's implied that you two are moving out. Splitting rent of a one bedroom apartment is something pretty easily accomplished unless you both are working part time jobs and getting paid minium wage.

I'm not saying that we wouldn't or that it wouldn't be easy, just that I think there should be steps. You should go from living at home with your folks to living by yourself or with roommates to being married. You shouldn't skip steps. And you shouldn't get engaged with a girl when you have no idea what its like in the real world on your own.

[Ninja Genius]

Well like everything else in this thread it's really just your own opinion. So people think it'll be a great experience to live grow and learn together with someone. I think theoneandonly summed it up perfeclty in his/her statement.

[Jimnast]

Martryn, please remove that disgusting avatar, it's really unpleasant to look at, everytime I see it, I want to throw up.

[odin_valkyrie]

i believe theirs more after life. If you say im a moron for believing that good for you. Even if its false if you really believe theres a better thing after you die then you don't worry as much about death and you dont anquish as much when someone dies because it's like they went to a better place. Therefor out of this lesds worry you can have a longer life since when you are stressed or sad or worried you are more prone to diseases. Worried people live less. God is the path of a safe life. You don't hear of catholic children commiting suicide much do you. You don't hear "the bishop of whatever church gunned down 8 people on june 5".

[DragonHeart52]

As a girl growing up in rural Ohio, I was very pressured to marry early and forget anything beyond that (even though I graduated as valedictorian of my high school class). The words I hated most were "a shame that so many brains are wasted on a girl who's just going to get married anyway." So I set my goals, accepted the fact that my actions were potentially going to alienate me from my family, and struck out on my own.

A word of advice: Get out of the bible belt and rural areas. Get to a major university in the north or on the coasts. You are far more likely to meet someone who shares your ideals and is interested in something beyond just marriage and breeding.

[Begoniax13]

Good to know that I'm not the only one thinking the same thing. As time ticks, it's killing me, and I feel like killing time. Time=:naughty

[SpiritedLoser]

I agree with you i want to travel round and live in hotels when i'm older.
You shouldnt feel pressured to get married or get in a serious relationship.
Go wherever your heart tells you too, and you'll find what you want there...
Your hearts always right, just follow your dreams ^_^

[martryn]

*sigh* It's interesting to see where you come from. Eighteen months ago I was griping at people for getting married at such a young age and now I'm acting desperate for a wife. It seems so long ago.

A word of advice: Get out of the bible belt and rural areas. Get to a major university in the north or on the coasts. You are far more likely to meet someone who shares your ideals and is interested in something beyond just marriage and breeding.

Aye, you're right. I'm being brainwashed here into thinking that I need to conform, when it's just the opposite. Conformity is relinquishing your freedom to be who the fuck you want to be, the freedom to make choices. Doing so is death. Fuck that! Getting married is the same as dying! I don't want to get married anymore!

[FrostXian]

I just wanted to know if other people in the world thought about things the same way I did.

Growing up, I was led to believe that I would do everything I ever wanted. Life was full of possibilities. Now that I'm at the age where I have to think about careers and wives and kids and bills and taxes, things are starting to look different and I sorta want out.

I look around me and I see all my friends getting married and settling down, and it scares me. I don't have a single friend who is not either married or engaged, and I'm only 22 (in a month). What the hell? My best friend in high school got married at 19 and dropped out of college to work as a janitor at a high school to support his wife and kid. This guy was brilliantly smart, a talented writer, and a big history/religion buff, and now he's got no future outside of his family. We used to always hang out on the weekends. I knew him better than anyone, and he me. I used to give him advice on everything, and if something happened in his life, I knew about it. We were hella close. But then he got married. I go months without seeing him, and when I do, he won't leave the house as he doesn't want to leave his wife and kid alone. I know I can't blame him for it, but I can't believe that our friendship means so little to him now that he can't free up an hour once every couple of months to have lunch and catch up. And when they invite me over for cake and tea or something, I arrive and they seem to not notice me, going about their routine whilst I sit and wait in the living room for someone to talk to me.

I don't want this to happen to me. I don't want to settle down. I don't want to have kids in the next five years. Yet every girlfriend I get seem to think that that is the most important thing right now. Guys are the ones who pop the question, right? So why are they the ones always bringing it up? Why do I have to tell women I am seeing I love them when I don't? Why can't two people date for fun and recreational sex? Where are the women who I CAN fall in love with, the ones that think the same as I, and feel that they don't have to settle down and start a bloody family the moment we get married?

I want to travel. I want to live in hotels. I want to go from job to job. I want to find a group of pals who don't have to answer to a feminine presence. I still believe that big things await me, and that life is still full of itself. That I am special in some way and don't have to conform to the conditions and standards that society seems all too content to set. That the big adventure that is life doesn't have to stop just because I am adult. That the tedium I am experiencing now is passing. That life isn't over yet.

Anyone else feel that way? Anyone feel that life is sorta not as exciting as you get older, yet it shoud be? What am I doing wrong?

Teenagers, live it up now, and don't give in to peer pressure. Don't burn bridges.
Why are you making me like you, now? After all the anger and neg repping. :(

[martryn]

Why are you making me like you, now? After all the anger and neg repping.

Fuck you, asshole. I hate you!

Better? I'm not really as conservative as I seem in other threads.

[Leanne]

I totally agree with martryn. I feel exactly the same, though I'm still young.
I hate the idea of being old someday and not able to do anything. I want to do so many things before I start a family of my own. I want to have fun and not have to think about all those other things. So that I can look back on my life and think: Well that was a great time and I did the things I wanted to do. Now it's time to live a normal life like everybody else.

You know what you should do, just find a girl that think the same way about those things as you do. So you could have fun with her too without thinking about a future with kids or whatever.

[martryn]

You know what you should do, just find a girl that think the same way about those things as you do. So you could have fun with her too without thinking about a future with kids or whatever.

Gp ahead and point that one out to me, will ya? Make sure she's also attractive and intelligent.

[Leanne]

Gp ahead and point that one out to me, will ya? Make sure she's also attractive and intelligent.

There must be a girl like that somewhere. :wink
No really. You're not the only one who thinks so.
I'm also a girl and I agree with you. :amuse

[Toby]

Like mentioned earlier, you should head out of the bible belt. Actually, stay the hell out of areas where religion makes people settle down and lose their grip. If you want to travel, then plan it out. Make the plans you need for university and aim for that education you need to fulfill the dream you really wanted. Don't let anyone take that idea away from you, and if it means that you have to leave some friends behind, then think of all the other people who did that in order to become the legends of mankind.

It is common for the people in my social group to just familiarise with people over the two years we spend together in the IB diploma programme, but in the end we know that we are in this course because we are going to study abroad, not in the same country we are residing in. The result is that we all leave each other and go to unis all over the globe, and the only way we can stay in touch is by mail or a reunion (in say seven years?).

I am facing the prospect of having to leave the love of my life (I am not old enough to know perhaps, but she is like the real girlfriend with absolute commitment) and I am not fine with it at all. But our mentality is that we give up perhaps five years of love and see just how far we can walk the mile. If we really are meant to be that love ought to last. So should yours for the gal of your life, and definitely the relatives who are dear to you.

Attack life, because it's going to kill you anyways.

[Dimezanime20]

Your like an emo, but with goals and dreams.:) That's so awwwwwish.:)

[Hell On Earth]

Get out of Arkansas quick and came here to the northern states and have a good ol' time with us yankees.